Three Questions to Ask BEFORE you get married.

(That you might not have considered.)

So, you’re engaged!

Congrats. Very exciting news. Where do you start? Often, after getting engaged, things can seem quite intimidating. Where to get married? When? Who to invite? What do I wear? What’s the budget?

These are all big and, honestly, important questions to ask yourself when it comes to getting married. But you’ve got time. You’ve got resources. You’ve got this.

Here are a few questions you might not have thought to ask yourself as you start planning your wedding.

3 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU GET MARRIED

(THAT YOU MIGHT NOT HAVE CONSIDERED)

1. How much work do you want to put into this yourself? Do you consider yourself a type-A person? Do you work 3 jobs? Would you generally consider yourself or your partner organized or disorganized? These questions you want to ask yourself honestly will save some stress surrounding your big day. If you enjoy multitasking, graphic design, emailing and talking on the phone (this is a scary one for a lot of people), then playing a large part in the planning of your wedding might be a great choice for you.
   

   If you thrive more off of showing up perfectly late to the party, taking life as it goes, and being spontaneous, you might benefit from hiring a planner or a venue with a built-in wedding coordinator. These people are professionals who get the job DONE. If the idea of calling your great aunt Karen to follow up and if she really is going to fly to your wedding sounds like a nightmare, maybe it’s a good idea to delegate! There are many vendors in the city that thrive off of vibes. Here are some of my personal faves: Attia Events, The Wedding Apothecary, or Happy Little Weddings - (just show up and get married!). They get the feel and vibe from you, and then they execute the vision.

   Making sure your budget includes some kind of planning help, or coercing a very

   organized friend to help you complete the mission, are both great ideas to make your wedding run smoothly. (Btw, I am also a wedding coordinator!)
   

2. VIBES. What are the vibes of the day? Don’t worry yet about a colour scheme or a specific type of flower. What do you want to feel when you walk into your venue? What do you want your guests to feel at your wedding? Come up with some inspiration words that feel right to you. Try to be specific. Here are some to start with: Comfortable, fun, exciting, peaceful, calm, spectacular, WOW, chill, colourful, laughter, joy, friendly, easy, spooky, creative, beautiful, memorable, DIY, etc!

   
   
   
   

3. What’s your crazy dream wish? What, if there were no budget, no parameters, no limits, would you want at your wedding? If you could have anything at all. Again, this is a great way to figure out what you really want. Identify your dreams, and then see how you could make those dreams a reality. If you are working with a planner or designer, this is another way to communicate; maybe they know a way to make that dream happen with a lower budget.

   
   

Well, that’s all I’ve got for today. Can you think of any other questions nearlyweds should ask themselves? Leave a comment, I am always looking for a good chat!

Xo,

Your Friendly Neighbourhood Wedding Officiant